I’m a white male I grew up in a small town in mid west America. Blue collar lifestyle for most of my life. I moved to the city about 8 years ago with my now wife. We hit a rough patch about 5 years ago. We decided to go to our separate corners and figure things out. Now I work with mostly women. Being a decent looking dude in that situation was interesting. My wife (gf at the time) knew about my dating history and preferences. I loved black women. My wife was pretty much the first white girl I’ve been.

Since we had taken a break, I was talking to one of my co workers she was beautiful, kind smart nice driven and she was black. I flirted and I don’t know how to explain it we just had a connection we were drawn to each other. Eventually we admitted to having feelings for each other we sexted a bit. I thought for sure I was going to end it with my gf at the time. Plus she wanted kids and so did I. Eventually it didn’t end up working out. And my gf and figured things out and moved on. Mostly the issue with my co worker was religion. Not judging but that was a big part of her life and I didn’t want to invest in that. I miss her, I still think about her. Even now. There are times I think about reaching out but I know it would end badly.