Hi, it's me, some fuckin' weirdo.

(note, I'm writing and not editing).

I'm a little bored and a lot horny, though I'd usually spend these covid-days drowning myself in sissy porn, I'm feeling a little social today so I thought maybe we could have a conversation, maybe I could even answer some questions.

I'm in my thirties, I'm masculine in day to day life, I'm a pretty average looking dude, probably like a 5 or 6 out of ten. Not repulsive, but i'm not jacked or square jawed or anything. But I have had a lot of experiencing dressing like a girl and getting fucked, and I have played with about 5 or 6 girls who have dommed me or played with me while I'm a sissy.

I am, by no means, any kind of pickup artist, and I'm not looking for pats on the back, nor am I trying to gloat. And I'm sure some dildo is going to say, "well i'm a sissy and i've played with FIFTY women" and that's fine, that's cool, enjoy it. But what I will say, simply, is that I am probably not hotter than you, and I have had a lot of very meaningful, fulfilling, and filthy sex with women, and I want to talk to you all about how you do that, and maybe hear your own success stories.

But I will narrow this all down to a few basic truths/ lessons. And some of those will rub you the wrong way. But if you wanna have fun, you gotta do the work. So here we go.

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1. bat in your class

Ok, you look at a lot of porn, and you see a lot of incredibly attractive women, saying just the right things while they fuck guys just the right way. There's that cute girl who's girl-next-door type who knows just what to say to put you in your place but make you feel loved. And so you've got it in your head that there's this army of girls out there who are secretly dominant women, and you won't stop until you get the best. Listen, let's be real. If you're ruling out a huge percentage of women just because they don't fit your version of what "hot" is, you're doing yourself a disservice. The fact is people aren't "hot" or "not" like that. You might meet the cutest girl in the world who's a little plumper than you're used to, or someone with no boobs but the nicest legs you've ever seen, or someone who isn't that hot but their sheer damn force of will and enticing attitude makes them into a goddess. If you don't want people who expect perfection, don't base everything on perfection yourself. I've had good sex with some real 10/10 people, but i've had amaaaaazing sex with 6/10s. so loosen up, don't be shallow. you won't find that perfect tik-tok cosplay girl if that's all you expect.

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2. Girls just aren't like guys (please don't cancel me)

When I say something like "girls don't like" or "guys do like," please know, there's an inherent "not all guys" "not all girls" in there. I'm not claiming that girls all think or act the same way, or that they're just pretending if they say they don't. I'm also not saying that women are somehow genetically predisposed to any of these behaviors, it could well be social engineering or the patriarchy or whatever. But I do think, whether it's because of birth or society, there are, on average, different traits that men and women TEND to have.

phew.

And in particular, sex drive and the way women pursue sex tends to be different than the way that men do. and i know, you're not a man, you're a dirty, filthy, beta little sissy. but you have certain hormones and you were raised in certain society, so you might still have these traits.

Men simply--pursue--sex. They know what they want to do, and they find a person to do it with. they see a girl they think is cute, they want to fuck them, so they figure out a way to do so. they have a certain kink they have in mind, something they see in porn--say, for instance, getting fisted by a hot domme girl while she makes you say "did i do that" like steve urkle--and they go and OBTAIN that fetish. they find the girl, they make it happen.

Women can certainly do the same. I know lots of women who have fetishes, fetishes they pursue. But women are much more stimulated by relationship and relationship dynamics than men. They want to like the person first, then make the sex feel like a fun exploration of that. They want the dynamic to take center stage.

All of this is to say that you might be able to go to a guy and say "please, sir, i'm the best cock sucker in the world and i just wanna suck your dick, treat me like an object and use my face," but i guarantee you you won't get the reaction you want out of a woman. and i know, i know it's all over sissy hypno porn and joi's and stuff. but in reality women aren't walking around, itching for some piece of meat to use. they wanna find a guy, that they like, that they can have weird with. so don't come at women with that "please use me" shit, because unless you've built up a framework, it won't work.

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3. Be confident

This is very generic, and I know it's said by like every pick up douchebag out there. But it's just. true. it's not about how hot you are, it's about how confident you are. people respect you more, they wanna get to know you, they wanna be involved with you. I'm a really average dude but i wear what i want, act how i want, and I'm not so insecure that i need to project that. and people seem to want to get to know me. i won't go into this cause you'll find a lot of bullshit pick up books simply about how to be confident, but a couple quick thoughts in no particular order:

-don't put the cart in front of the horse! Don't emulate confidence. don't read about how long to let silence stay in the room before responding, don't manage your posture, don't neg. you have to be confident, not simulate confidence

-confidence comes from what you do when you're NOT picking up chicks. Do you ruthlessly pursue your hobby? are you good enough at your job that you're moving up? Do you make plans with people, keep those plans, and have a social life? do you do things that scare you, go on adventures, question your own beliefs and learn things about the world, and yourself? Doing these things is how you become confident. So go. turn off the computer. live your life.

... then come back and be a good little sissy bitch.

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4. Don't reverse engineer

This one's real important. a lot of folks go out looking for a domme chick, straight away. and i just gotta tell you, it doesn't really work. if you're going for "domme" women, they're either smart enough to get paid for it, or they've found it's a relationship dynamic that works for them. So don't start at the finish line and just look for "domme" girls. Go make friends with women. talk to them. date. use okcupid. and then see if they're interested in sharing your kinks. Women are way, way more open minded to exploring than you'd think. and this isn't about manipulating people into doing what you want. this is about forming a relationship where she likes the dynamic. which leads into:

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5. treat women like people

I swear to god, I'm not some woke sjw who snuck in here to heal you all of your misogynistic ways or anything. This simply works better.

As I've stated, you have to keep in mind that women love DYNAMIC more than anything, they're not simply looking for a mouth to lick them (like guys often do). So you need to make that work. You are their friendly, alternative friend with a secret dark side, that only they know about, and they're your angel working it out. You are their fun queer friend that they get to dress up and cuddle with while you watch rom coms and do girly things. you are the tough guy stranger who is so enamored with them that you'll do anything they say.

These things are more important to women than just "let me go down on you" or whatever.

And fuck it, man, you deserve it. You should be with someone who also loves you, and cares bout you, or at least wants to get to know you better.

so talk, like people. get to know her, find out about her life, her interests. open up slowly, and gracefully. don't just objectify. And while we're talking about opening up....

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6. open up early

Most heartbreaking thing I ever see on here is guys trying to find the right way to tell their wife of seven years that they're a sissy. What. a. fuckin'. bummer.

Listen, at that point you gotta put yourself in her shoes. You've known this guy for most of a decade, you've trusted in each other, shared your secrets, taken care of each other, made plans, you think you've been satisfying him sexually and then...suddenly... this whole big part of his life you never knew about but that's clearly been under the surface the whole time.

even if she's into your kink, she's not going to feel great expressing it. she'll feel forced into it, obligated to do it, and she'll feel like she was some kind of safety for you. it's awkward at best, unfair at worst.

And it isn't fair to you either. if she says no, you just have to go on carrying this secret under your skin forever. For. Ev. Er.

Don't do that to yourself.

so do yourself a favor and follow dan savage's three month rule. tell her at the three month mark. either it won't be her thing and you try again with someone else, or she'll recognize it as an important part of your life and you can do it together forever.

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7. good relationship might not equal good sex

Ok, so this one is tough for some people. and i'm sure this one is going to have folks tell me i'm wrong. but from my experience, the person you have good sex with just shouldn't also be the person you do your taxes with.

a lot of the best sex i've ever had hasn't been with my significant other, it's been with fuck buddies. fuck buddies are always more likely to enjoy seeing one SIDE of you, and enjoying it. which means it's easier to just talk about sex, to just be escapism for each other. Once your significant other is also the person you do errands with, the person who'd mother you see on sundays, the person you grieve with when someone dies... well, it's a lot harder to be like "hey honey put your fist in my mouth." objectifying people is always easier when you dont know them as well.

personally, i'm in an open relationship, and without making this whole post about that, i recommend you try it too. i dont' have great sex with my partner, but i have amaaaaaazing, life fulfilling, meaningful sex with my secondary partner. and i still love her, and care about her, and share details with my life. but the fact that she never notices that i slipped away from watching tv to crack the porcelain after the indian food we had last night sorta kinda helps us remain focused on thinking we're hot and sexy and having fun.

i'm not saying you can't also have great sex with your significant other. but i guarantee you can feel freer with the part time people in your life.

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8. ask for what you want (and think about what you want)

And finally, the one that's often hardest for sissies to accept, ask for what you want. I know it's a fantasy to service a girl who really wants to use you, and tells you what to do, and bosses you around, and doesn't care what you think. but both of you will be happier, and more comfortable, if you talk about it.

firstly, you might not know your needs as well as you think you do. i for one had an early hookup with a domme girl that went terribly. i didn't negotiate enough, and when i told her "i just want you to use me up and make me your bitch," she took that to mean that she should beat the fuck out of me with a paddle and a flogger until i was bruised and covered in welts. i am not a pain person! but i was also too embarrassed to stop the scene, so i just went on, uncomfortable and miserable, till it was over. It's not her fault; i should have been more clear. but just stop to think that maybe your fantasy and what someone might do in reality might not add up. in summary: a guy shoving his dick in your ass is a VERY DIFFERENT THING in fantasy than it is in practice. So make it clear, so you don't get hurt.

Also, even the dommliest dommes need a little reassurance. believe it or not using someone sexually is a stressful and scary thing for a domme. so you owe it to them to make it clear what you want, what you don't want, and that you're having a nice time.

I recommend the menu approach. Give them a long list of kinks and fetishes you'd be up for exploring, including the stuff that you've never done and that scares you a little but you kinda wanna try, and then tell her "you don't need to do all of this, but you can do any of it you want. this isn't a checklist, it's a menu." and it'll make you both feel much more clear on what to expect.

There's just a lot of things you might not think about. maybe you're stressed and nervous because your'e out in public with friends you don't know that well and she slaps you on the ass in front of everyone. does that make you turned on, or embarassed? are you sure? talk about it.

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OK, that's all i got right now. sorry this is word puke, i'm going to go shove something up my ass now. respond if you have anything i haven't thought of, or if you have any questions on any of this and you wanna know more.