So I’ve (30M) been identifying as a sissy privately in my sex life since before I met and married my wife (28F).I was super transparent about what I was into and even told her right away when we were dating. I didn’t want to give her any surprises. We’ve been married since 2019 and we’ve been dating since 2015.

For most of our marriage we would have vanilla sex but frequently engage in fun cross dressing sex where I would dress up or wear panties and she would dominate me. This especially intensified when she got pregnant and we started having kinky sex almost daily.

But then, soon after our baby was born she quickly cooled off on sex (almost entirely). And in the last several months has slowly admitted to me the following stuff:

• she’s no longer into this stuff
• she wants sexual experiences with someone who is dominant and not submissive
• she considers herself to be more submissive now
• she feels like she’s losing time because of her age and the fact we have a kid now and she wants to makeup for lost time. She also admitted to “selfishly” (her words, not mine) enjoy her sexy body more if she can
• she admitted even when we have vanilla sex I’m not dominant enough for her
• she doesn’t want a divorce

We have no idea what to do now. She floated the idea of an open relationship but we are scared of losing eachother and deeply want to stay together. I don’t like the idea of us introducing anyone else into our relationship and she also has concerns about that.

I’m trying to find a safe and healthy way for her to scratch her itch while still being together. But idk how.

I’m looking for serious offers of advice and suggestions. I know this sounds alluring and exciting to people’s fantasies but I’m looking for a safe and healthy way for us to continue maintaining our relationship while still being true to ourselves.