So before anyone asks, yes I’m okay and couldn’t be happier now that the dust has kinda passed.

So ever since I was 18 I have been living as a bi cis male, not living out publicly. Selected friends have know for years and my first ex gf has been so supportive and amazing along with all my female besties :)

Well finally life circumstances have changed and I left a toxic career for anyone who is in the LGBTQ community! So the past year (33 now, and living at home while I transition careers and finish up school) I have been getting pretty sloppy at hiding things and have even been embracing my feminine side so much more and I have been so happy! And I couldn’t be more thankful to my family for this support, while they only know half of the reason why I am switching careers.

So recently on an international family vacation, I was trying to set up my eSim to use my phone overseas. So I give them my phone and they are setting it up as I’m no tech genius… well in cellular data settings it lists apps and the amount of data use for each app….

Well since the semester ended and I have a ton of time I decided it was time to try dating and seeing what could happen on Grindr as a CD/trans mtf girlie (it’s been great for the most part :)). So the number two app in data usage was Grindr lol. Totally visible for all to see. At first I was hoping they didn’t know but then the more I sat on it the more I hoped they did know. A couple of days pass and during this I’m texting my female bestie panicking then I’m just like you know what? Good! I’m glad they found out this way! And yes they do know what they saw and some things have been said. I don’t deny and I don’t admit, kinda just play dumb like their statements don’t make any sense. However each comment makes me happier and happier they know because I don’t have to hide the fact I’m not straight. I’m waiting for the direct question which I won’t deny just say yes and glad you finally know it’s been fairly obvious for years. However, what they don’t know is that I am trans and want to begin transitioning soonish (I am in no rush). But them coming to terms with the fact I have dated and slept with men is a good first step. The fact my Grindr is of female version of me they don’t need to know right now. And I’ll just be less concerned about them putting clues together because the clues have been there for ages!

Secondly, I was working the other day and I did something by mistake and just instinctively responded with a whoopsies and the girls at work were like omg you sounded like a total girl… and this was honestly one of the happiest things that has happened since I’ve come to terms with who I am.

TLDR: I outed myself with having Grindr on my phone. Family now knows. Nothing bad has come of it! And I’m starting to get noticed for some of my effeminate ways 🥰