I’m 39, about to turn 40 this year. I haven’t dated a lot, my body count is shockingly low. I never sewed my wild oats. I was married for ten years, but I never felt that bursting sense of love when I thought of my wife. It was a lot of fights and a little love. So we divorced and I set about my goals on knowing precisely who I wanted to spend my life with.

I met a girl at work. She was amazing. Had all my favorites, she matched me as INFP/ENFJ. we dated for two months and talked non stop every day. We had phone sex, shared pictures made playlists. And then one day, she said it was over. I was clingy because of how past relationships had messed with me. But the heartbreaking part was o couldn’t be friends with her. I loved her too much and so gradually we stopped talking and I got her to the point where she said she would never speak to me again. I was hurting, especially since she knew how I felt about her and still decided to date me.

I thought she would be the one. And now she’s not. And I get the feeling that I’m going to be waiting a long time to find my one. That weirdo who likes playing video games and isnt embarrassed by me for being me. Someone who loves me as much as I love them. The problem I have is how long do I wait?