Hi, so new here clearly. I am only 15 weeks pregnant so I am not fully into the mommyhood life with actually juggling a baby and her's or his' dad yet. Okay so I found out when I was 5 weeks and told the dad right after I found out and he decided I would move in with him, though he lives with his aunt and uncle and okayed it with them after I agreed with him. Afterward I talked to my mom though and told her and I stayed a couple nights at the dad's house but it felt like I was just sitting in his room all day because I wasn't very comfortable around his uncle. We had only been dating for about 2 and a half months when we learned I was pregnant, we were being stupid and we both know that.

So after I talked to my mom again after being at his house for a few days we both went to my mom's and stayed their for a night and I talked to my mom about everything and was thinking more on where I should be staying. In the start he told me where ever I wanted us to be he was okay with and he would stay with me. Once I was home I decided I wanted to stay home with my mom because I am pretty young, I just turned 20 a couple weeks ago though. So I told him what I was deciding and he flat out refused to stay but said to me that because I wasn't going to be living with him that it would be harder to see me so we talked about moving in together later after things settled in and we were both more stable in our lives.

Then after that night he went back to his aunt's and uncle's and I stayed home. I was still processing being pregnant and then it got really hot and there was even an extreme heat warning so I wouldn't going anywhere for a while including his house which he got pissed about and he refused to come see me, which he had done often before so I was always the one going to see him and finding a way to where he was. Finally about after a week he came out to see me and told me that we shouldn't be together until things were better and we needed to work things out. A couple days later I found out he had a new girlfriend who has a 10 month old daughter and they have been living with him at his aunt's and uncle's and also that he had been dating her for at least a week before we had broken up.

I got pretty upset when I learned about this and kept trying to figure out what had happened for him to do something like that to me after I had told him I loved him and trusted him but he pretty much ignored it when I told him how I was feeling. Then he came out to my sister's, where I was at at the time, after learning I had had an ultrasound and was pissed because I hadn't told him about it before. it was spur of the moment and had actually been my sister's appointment but her doctor had been kind enough to give me an ultrasound after he learned I was pregnant too so I didn't know about it before and I even texted him afterwards about it but he said he never got the message.

Not only that but when he came out that day he brought the new girlfriend with him. I wanted to talk to him more because I was still completely lost on what had happened because I couldn't really talk to him over the phone about it or text about it cause his new girlfriend always had his phone and would text me back when i tried texting telling me I should feel lucky that he even wanted to be involved because her daughter's dad had 4 other kids and wasn't around any of them. So I asked him to try to come out again so we could talk but without his girlfriend. So he came out to my house the next day, only his new girlfriend had tagged along again so we really couldn't talk plus me and my other sister were going shopping with our dad who hasn't been involved in our lives much.

So again I requested he come out again without his girlfriend the next day so we could talk. The next day I texted him asking about if he was coming out or not and his girlfriend texted me back saying if he did she was coming with him no matter what and so was her daughter. So I ended up telling them fine, just don't come out at all then. I felt like he wasn't respecting me at all and like she wasn't either. And the day before when he brought her he had been wanting us to go to the park so that me and the new girlfriend could meet because even after dating for a couple weeks they had decided together that she would be involved in my baby's life after he or she was born.

His mom got involved as well after all this. She told the new girlfriend that she wasn't to contact me though as well as telling my ex that he wasn't to keep bringing her into it and then she told me that if my ex was bringing her into it again or wasn't stepping up that I was to call her, which I still feel now would be immature and childish because my ex is an adult and he shouldn't have to have his mother ordering him around and he should be doing this stuff on his own but refuses to. His mom also told me and him both that the best thing for us would be joint custody, which my ex had brought up custody before by saying he would just take the baby from me even just after we found out which is another thing that scared me into not going to his house in the end of our relationship.

So far since all of this he has only come out to my house once in the last mouth and a half, and that was only after he learned I had ultrasound pictures from a new ultrasound. We finally got a chance to talk about what happened between us and I was explaining how I was feeling but he seemed to just be going along with whatever I said and even had the balls to say in front of my sister that he wasn't cheating on me though he had been. My sister and I were both talking to him together at first because I had been talking to her a lot so she knew what I needed to say but couldn't because I had forgotten about some things. After a bit me and him went to my room to talk alone and it seemed like he was still just going along with whatever I wanted and agreeing with me.

That was the start of this month, and I have seen him once before because I went over to a mutual friend's house for a couple of hours and he and his girlfriend were there and that was about 2 weeks ago and he barely talked to me except to ask when my next doctors appointment would be and if I would keep the baby from him, even though I had been telling him repeatedly since I found out that I wouldn't keep the baby from him. I also learned there that his girlfriend thought she might be pregnant again, even though she already had a kid and he had just recently gotten me pregnant and it felt like proof to me of how responsible they were not even trying to be. Though it turns out that she isn't pregnant which she let me know.

But now I have so many things to think over because of everything. We made so many plans when we found out about the baby, like he would be there when I had the baby and he would go to appointments with me. But that all changed after we broke up and after everything I don't even think I want him in the room or on the birth certificate because I don't want him having custody of the baby with how immature and childish he has acted. He is treating the baby like a possession and keeps making all these plans without me about the baby and it makes me worry that he is going to try to take the baby from me unless I make sure he can't.

I don't feel like he can do this honestly and I don't want to keep the baby from him, but I can't trust him after everything and i don't want to be near him after he has hurt me so much. I don't want my baby getting hurt by him either and I have heard so much about his past now that makes me think he could be dangerous if he gets pushed. I want to keep my baby safe but I want her/him to know her/his dad. But it feels like he doesn't want to be around either because he never asks about the baby or anything, he never comes around. I talk to his aunt, mom, and girlfriend more then I talk to him honestly. Though I make sure not to talk to any of them about my ex because I don't know if I can trust them. But I don't know whats in store for me after this baby gets here, and it scares the hell out of me because this is my first and only baby and I don't want to lose him or her.