Sorry for the long post

For context I’m fully convinced my ex is a narcissist and an opportunist.

Met him when I was 23, he was a pest control tech and I just happened to be the one to open the door that day.

Things progressed ridiculously fast, like I got pregnant the first time ect. He also told me he loved me within the first month. We went from strangers to being attached at the hip like it was nothing. At the time I thought it was love at first sight until the red flags started. I remember being 5 months pregnant on my birthday and balking my eyes out after a date with him because he spent the whole night calling me nosy anytime I looked anywhere but straight ahead of at him. Like he wouldn’t let it go. He would come over to our house (lived with my grandparents at the time) and would sit next to me and sleep for HOURS then got offended when he was told he couldn’t come over just to sleep on the couch (100% understandable)

When we first met everyone in his life was an enemy (he lived with his parents) he hated them, his first childs mother was “crazy and bitter” and I fell for allll of it.

I’d fallen out with pretty much all of my family because they could see through him but I chose to ignore it because I wanted the whole “family” thing.

As soon as we made it official he started referring to MY car as OUR car and would get mad if I corrected him. he crashed it shortly after getting our first place. My dad paid for all of the repairs under the agreement that he’d get paid back. My ex never put a dime towards it. And would fight with me when I brought it up. Stupidly I stayed. We ended up breaking the lease at the first place because we were struggling so bad and could only afford to feed my son. It was miserable. We moved in with my dad under the agreement that my ex would help with bills since my dad wasn’t too thrilled about a grown man living there. Understandable. My ex was pissed and only ever put 50$ down and then moved out shortly after to live in his truck. I still stayed, STUPIDLY.

At that time he took it upon himself to demonize me to his friends and family, WHILE STILL DATING ME. And that was the year he cheated heavily. I wouldn’t find out until a year later after signing the lease to our second apartment that I paid the rent on for two years ALONE.

Anytime we got into a fight and he would leave it was always “well can I still stay here tonight?” And when I met him his parents were on the verge of kicking him out. In my mind he saw a girl in a nice house with a nice car and pounced on the opportunity. Even after I found out about him cheating the only time he really got “sad” was when he realized he had nowhere to live. I let him stay under the impression we’d work it out but every other week there was a new girl calling him late at night. So when it was time to renew for the 3rd time I decided to move back home.

Now his reason for hating me is because I “left him homeless” like he didn’t have two full years to get it together RENTFREE.

Now he’s found a new women that he’s been bringing my son around. It’s been about 3 or 4 weeks and from what I know about him, he’s seeking to pounce again. This women has 2 daughters my ex has a daughter he never can see and then there’s my son. He opted to go on vacation with them instead of picking my son up for his normal weekend visit and my son who is only 5 is starting to show signs of stress behind it. “He’s not their daddy he’s mine and my sisters.” Is what was said today.

It seems like my ex is tired of paying his own rent and is aiming to move in with this new women, because he’s never at his house anymore and I know rent there is almost what I was paying at our old place so I know it’s hurting his pockets on top of the child support he pays for his daughter.

Am I wrong for keeping my son out of his games? Like I let him go over but every time he comes back he’s a new kid and not in a good way. I feel like he’s frustrated because for his whole life it’s always been me and his dad and then out of the blue he drops 3 new people on him every weekend, and he still doesn’t understand why he can’t see his sister. My ex will literally cry to my 5 year old telling him I’m mean to him and that I’m the reason he can’t see him ect. I don’t bash him to my son so I don’t understand his logic behind that. I filed for child support and custody because when I asked why he doesn’t help out with our kid the response is “closed mouths don’t get fed” but never gives me a timeline of when the help will come.

I’m at a loss. I want my son happy but I feel like his dad is putting this situation on him and it’s effecting him so much.

Thanks for reading. How would you go about this situation?