Hi! I literally just found out this group exists. I’m 36 and I’ve spent much of my life as a serial monagamist. I’m a child of divorce and romantic love has always been an obsession of mine, to my detriment. I won’t go into detail, but I’ve only had one healthy relationship. This past one. But our values and lifestyle weren’t compatible and I’m not healed enough from my past. We kept this idea alive(3 years of it) that someday we’ll work. Today he finally said we just never will. And that’s ok! He deserves someone who fits his lifestyle and makes him happier than I could. My chest feels lighter. I’ve been dreading this but I feel… good? I’m currently fixated on someone not obtainable (probably as an emotional placeholder). Any tips on letting that aspect of my life die down so that I can focus on being happily single? I literally don’t know how to just not crush, not seek attention, not daydream about romance. It’s my trusted neural pathway.