I often get asked what I do to my sub. This is pretty much impossible to do off the top of my head, so I will just add to this post whenever I feel like it. I expect this will get gradually more detailed over time.

Disclaimer

I will preface this by saying dominance or submission are not inherent in any act. My dynamic with my sub occasionally finds expressions in the assorted kinky fuckery listed below. It's certainly not limited to the acts listed below, and it's certainly not these acts which create the dynamic in the first place.

Please also note that the following is a list of things I do / have done to my sub and primary partner, with whom I live. They are not things I necessarily would like to do to anyone else and they are certainly not things I want to do to random strangers.

Bondage

I often restrain my sub in various ways, most commonly using leather cuffs with clips or padlocks, or rope. However, at various points, I've used chains, metal shackles, duct tape, bondage tape, and cling film. We also have a leather sleep sack which I lace him into on occasion.

I do love a good predicament and prolonged bondage in general.

Impact Play

I have used the following things at one point or another:

• paddles;
• canes;
• floggers;
• single-tails;
• rulers;
• an impact play tool we have which looks something like a carpet beater;
• crops; and
• kitchen utensils (hey, who hasn't used a kitchen spoon at least once).

Pain / Miscellaneous Sadism

There are lots of other ways to cause physical pain, impact play asides. Here's some of them: * figging; * wax (if any newbie is reading this, please please remember bondage wax is different from candle wax); * temperature play, notably ice; * e-stim, TENS, and whatever you want to classify a violet wand as; * clamps, clips, pegs etc; * scratching / digging nails in (there's a reason I usually wear acrylics).

Insertables

I enjoy pegging. I didn't use to, but when I acquired a new harness which more accurately translates the movement of my hips (and is lovely and comfortable to boot) I have really enjoyed it this past year.

I have acquired quite the collection of dildos, plugs, and other insertables over the years, which do everything short of your taxes. I have variously inserted them into both my sub's holes on a lot of occasions.

I have also acquired a fucking machine, which we are increasingly getting to grips with and a milking machine as well.

Humiliation / Degradation

Humiliation and degradation are two sides of the same coin - humiliation is about amplifying a sub's sense of self-awareness and degradation is about encouraging them to let go of it altogether.

For the most part, how we play with humiliation / degradation is inherent in the context and can't be neatly distilled into a list.

Chastity

I am not a fan of the narrative surrounding chastity cages. I don't like the notion that my sub's submission should revolve around his penis. On top of which, cages are incredibly impractical and I like to have access to all of him whenever I feel like it.

So, I hate to burst the bubble of so many fetishists who grace my inbox, but no, despite our 24/7 TPE dynamic, no my sub is not locked in chastity.

That doesn't mean he can cum whenever he pleases - in fact, I don't think he's cum without permission for quite a few years now. He is an adult, who wants this dynamic as much as I do and can exercise a modicum of self-control. Or, in his case, a lot of self control.