okay so, i think i’ve cracked the code you guys. bc contrary to popular belief, we aren’t doing that shit on purpose. i promise😭

as a female myself, as well as someone who’s possibly neurodivergent bc girl-

anyways, i’ve pondered many a time on as to why we do that shit. so lemme start w/ the second part

i’ve noticed that when i say ‘i can eat anything’/‘i’m down for anything’ i actually mean i’m down for everything. like, i don’t just want 1 thing, i’m acc in the mood for absolutely EVERYTHING.

i can have pizza and pasta and KFC and apple pie and quesadillas and bubble waffles and a milkshake etc etc

but obv, we know that we can’t have everything, so when you start suggesting things - only ONE thing - we start to properly rationalise… we start thinking ‘well, if i can only have pizza, idk if i really want pizza, i might prefer something over the pizza’

and then you suggest pasta, and we (i) start thinking the same thing - that there might be better options out there other than pasta

and the cycle continues until you get upset and we just settle for something 😭🤣

and don’t get me wrong, we (i) don’t expect you to buy absolutely everything, idk why we (i) think this way.

i thought this self discovery was worth sharing, in case someone else feels/thinks in a similar way

now you might be wondering about the first part, the part where we say we’re not hungry and then we eat your food.

it’s not bc we’re trying to be cute and dainty and less fussy. i mean, maybe that’s true for a lot of girls, i can deffo see that happening bc of misogyny and conditioning, duh. but if that’s the case, i feel like it’s only in the beginning of the relationship/friendship? bc later on you get comfortable w/ the person right? but still, we will genuinely be like ‘nah i’m not hungry’ and then the millisecond you get your food we take a bite/slice/whatever

and i feel like that’s because (for me at least), similar to the other explanation, i want to eat everything, but, again, that’s impossible, so my brain, instead of dealing w/ the effort to think of something to eat and narrow it down to a couple of options or just 1 thing, decides that it’s better to not eat something rn if we can’t have what we really really want. this also applies if you say something specific like ‘i’m gonna get pizza, do you want an one’, bc now we’re thinking ‘ugh do i really only want pizza tho?’ and then we say no.

and then all of that rationalising goes out the window once we see you w/ food, bc now we’re thinking ‘ooh, having this type of food is better than having no food at all!’

i hope that 1) all of this made sense, and 2) that anybody can resonate w/ what i’m saying

and if anyone knows the psychological definition of anything that i described pls share it lol

i hope i haven’t just spewed some nonsense, like i hope that this is an actual explanation. if this isn’t it then idk😭