My husband and I (30F) are still on the fence about having another baby, and I said we can decide next year. My only child is 5 years old, and I feel that my peers, as our culture places a lot of importance on raising a family after marriage, are wondering whether I will have another child.

I worry constantly as well that the age gap is getting bigger and bigger, if ever we decide to have another baby. I am so sensitive to what other people think of me, being in a social circle where a lot of my friends are married with multiples (or are planning to have multiples), and I fear that they would judge me if we only have one child in our family. I just hope to be at peace with where I am now, but I always find comparing my current status to other people.

Seeking encouragement as my husband isn’t really very verbally encouraging. He just always tells me something along the lines of: “what will come, will come”. And that isn’t really very helpful, and I don't even fully understand or know what he really wants because he refuses to express himself more clearly. I bring up this topic almost every week or every other day, but he dismisses my concerns about me getting older, about kids' age gap, about our plans for the future. I am left so confused and alone sometimes on figuring out the right path.