I (F24) just got a routine pap test done and found out I have hpv. It's a less risky strain and my doctor assured me I shouldn't panic about it. I'll be getting another pap in a year to ensure I don't get cervical cancer. However, I've never gotten an STI before and it's hard not to freak out about it. I told my previous partners in case they also have it. I know that it's common, usually benign, and may even go away in a year or so.

My question is, what have other hpv positive people's experiences been with sex and relationships? Should I expect that once I disclose my status that potential partners won't want to have anything to do with me?

I am in kink and poly/ENM circles so I feel like this group is less judgemental when it comes to things like this. But I still worry... A friend of mine I suppose is tired of hearing me freak out about it and remarked, "It's not AIDS!" Which makes me feel shame for being emotionally impacted.

Protection is never 100% and I am worried that I might give it to future partners. As a result I have sorta developed a fear/shame of having sex, and have lost interest in pursuing it at all. Is this common and does anyone have advice for getting past this?