Good day

First of all thanks so much for this sub as a client for over 14 years it really helps me be educated on what I can do to show more respect to the providers I see. Also as a person with a disability, it's really great to hear how so many people accept it.

I am really shocked and saddened at how many posts I read on here about men wanting “bareback intercourse”. Growing up in the 80's in San Francisco I was well aware of the ADIS epidemic. Every Christmas eve my parents and I went to my god uncle’s party. He and most of his friends were LBGTQ. I can remember that each year the party would get a bit smaller, and I knew that one of the reasons were people dying. After I got to be about 8 I stopped asking where that nice man who played cards or showed me a magic trick was because in a way I already knew.

When I lost my virginity to a provider at 22 I had intercourse with a condom and it didn’t feel good. I tried intercourse a few more times,(with condoms on) and they didn’t feel good. Never once did I think,” I wonder what it would feel like to not wear a condom.” I’m guessing one day I’ll find out with a partner, but why risk me and my partner's safety just for a new experience. I really hate can turn into an act of needing to try something new all the time for myself and other guys., i am trying to work just establishing a good connection with a provider and not obsess on what act I feel I need to try

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If you made it this far thanks for reading. Hopefully, i didn’t come off as goody-two-shoes case i’m not. I just thought I would share why i ‘m not on the bareback bandwaggon

Jake

P.S.Pleease forgive my spelling I have a learning disability and feel nervous asking my friends to edit this.