Hello, my name is Jake and I am a 34 year old man with a disability called Cerebral Palsy, that effects my hands and speech (though most people can understand me in a short amount of time). For many years I have come to appreciate and have much respect for women who offer erotic services. Due to ableism it has been hard to find the intimacy I crave in society. I have no problem with spending money to get my needs met.

Over the years being able to place classifieds ads online to find providers has become a godsend. For 1 thing some providers think I am drunk or messing around when I call them out of the blue, because of my speech. Also I like to feel someone out before I meet them, because I want the both of us to feel safe. Also, part of what turns me on is having a good repot with people I meet. Physical contact is secondary to fining someone who I can talk and laugh with during our time together . By posting I can be honest about my speech and needs before we talk on the phone. Plus to be real it feels nice to be chosen.

I am wondering with all the new laws happening are there any sites where I can still share my needs. I tried the R4R thing on redit but theirs a lot of traffic on those pages plus I like to be honest about what I am offering in return . I would try Tinder but I can’t operate a smart phone. I am also interested in websites for non sexual touch services since I really crave any kind of touch.

I am in the L.A/Santa Barbara area if that helps with your advice. Also I know I may be braking one of the guidelines of this group(#6) so feel free to remove my post. I just thought I would take a chance and ask this question since I am wondering how to handle the new laws

Much respect and love to all Jake