obviously any person to some extent is going to size up another person they meet. no less sw’ers who must for their own safety vet even harder and more explicitly.

i mean more like is being a client or having been one an ick to most people? or to sex workers outside their line of work? i don’t think it should be, but at the same time i can understand why, particularly a man seeing a woman sw, why the male client might get judged. some for kind of unfair toxic masculinity reasons (lack of social skills, anxiety, lack of confidence/experience) but so many others that are absolutely fair. the examples being the obvious cheating partner, blatantly misogynistic/outright harmful or gross, but more broadly - the implication that this is a person who sees sex through the prism of transaction or is mostly comfortable in transactional relationships. or who objectifies those who they find attractive and treat people as if they’re disposable.

i’m trying to understand both sides of this with empathy, i don’t subscribe to the idea that clients would necessarily be creeps but i feel like maybe the culture is of the opinion that being a client is creepy and a character flaw of some sort. although obviously sw’s face the wrath of society way harder and way more unfairly than the embarrassment that clients might get for struggling to find sexual partners in the civilian world.

how much of a red flag is it to struggle to find partners in the civilian world?