I want to start by saying I love my partner and I support her work and mostly anything she does. However, she is 24, very small, beautiful, and higher functioning autistic, sometimes just really doesnt read people right. As much as I try to live in only love, and not fear, I have worries sometimes. We have been together a year and when we got together she worked at a Cafe for 2 years. 6 months into our relationship the Cafe closed and she got a job at the strip club. I was totally supportive of this, and have remained that way even tho we have both now learned even more of the dark side of these places. I have been supportive of her choice to do extras. We are poly and have a platonic partner and even tho i can be jealous, i try and inderstand my jealousy and figure out if its actual jealously or me being protective and she and work through that. I know she loves me and cares for me and we have a good relationship and trust. We also live together.

A few months ago she met a guy at the club, and because one of her managers vouched for him as a good guy, she went on a date outside the club with him and at a hotel. I was very skeptical at first but she kept her location on and I stayed close by. But I never got a name, ID, license plate or anything. Everything went well, she found out one of the other girls at the club was his sugar baby for 3 years and vouched for him being safe, fast forward to another date and he says he wants to be her daddy and give her like 4k a month if she stays a few nights with him a month. They've had a maybe total of 3 meets since then. I still have no last name or any real info on this guy other than he seems nice and has been accommodating and understanding in regards to pay and general respect. And that he's married.

He is coming today to talk about how he wants her to fly out to see him in other cities, for a night or two here and there as he isn't even from our city and won't be coming here for travel for much anymore. He says he'd rather her do that and him take care of all her monthly costs a month so she doesn't have to work at the club anymore.

I'm an anxious person and I am so so protective of anyone I love. This all sounds great but I just hate that I have NO ID on this guy. She if she flies out and something happens all I have is a first name.

How can she maybe be more safe? This guy hasn't even told her his job which i guess I get it. She doesn't have any other connect like this as this is her first year doing SW and we really need the money. She understands my worry but also trusts this guy and would rather deal with just him than most of the guys at the club and the clubs are unsteady af and she gets low balled and disrespected and I hate that too.

Most of this is a rant but any advice is appreciated lol