I saw an escort for the first time yesterday, and while I enjoyed it, I had some major performance anxiety, which on reflection I think reveals some internal conflict and confusion about how to approach sex without romance, given a provider who is fairly passive and equally responsive to whatever I want to do. I'm not used to partners who are so accommodating and I realize that it could be asking too much for the experience to feel more mutual. I'm thinking that probably the expectation is that I objectify and use her body like a sex toy (within her boundaries), something I'm not used to, but it might make the experience more comfortable for both of us while allowing me to explore my more dominant and selfish side.

What do people think, is selfishly using her body actually the most healthy and honest way to approach transactional sex, or should I keep looking for a provider who makes me feel like I'm turning her on as much as she's turning me on?