My husband and I (well, mostly me) have decided to sorta, kinda open our marriage. It's kinda complicated to explain and I doubt y'all care lol but we're only interested in finding a girl, kinda like a unicorn type of situation but I know how hard those can be to find and honestly, as much as I love boobs, I'm just not into vaginas. In fact, I'm not even sure I want to partake. However, he would like me to at least be present because this is all very taboo for him and he would just feel better if I'm there to witness everything lol. So ideally, I would like to find a girl that would be open to the idea of both of us being in the room but only interacting with him. Would this still count as being with two people? I have absolutely no problem paying the right girl, I just don't know if this scenario in particular is too weird. He has done stuff here and there before (with my full knowledge and encouragement) but never done the FS experience, so this would be the first time and I suppose out of curiosity I would want to be there. Apart from escort sites, I have read that seeking is also a good way to find girls who might be into this (compensated) type of thing. Would you guys recommend that as well or just stick to the escort sites?

Alternatively, and this is the one we're both much more interested in, I would like to find a dominatrix for him. He's a switch but leans sub, and honestly, I just don't enjoy doing the whole Dom thing. I'm not a switch and engaging in physical punishment takes a huge toll on me mentally and I rather just out source that to a more knowledgeable lady lol the problem is, I don't know where to even begin to look for someone who does this kind of thing? I've gone into the findom subreddits but he's not into that at all, he's just into the physical aspect of it. Obviously, the lady would be compensated for her time, I just don't know where would be the best place to find her. Escort sites again? Seeking? Or stick to something like FetLife? Do dominatrixis in FetLife take money? Like I said, paying is totally fine with us but I wouldn't know how to approach it to begin with. We're in NYC so I KNOW there have to be people who do this kind of thing around us lol I would just appreciate a bit of guidance and maybe just point me in the right direction. Thank you!