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I am seeking advice regarding SW
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Seeking advice, ill put the question first and the context after. TLDR at bottom

I want to preface this by saying I do not look down on SW, or think anything bad of it. I just am not a customer of such things

As a man, who do I ask a woman I have been talking to if she is interested in a connection with me (platonic or otherwise), or if she only sees me as a prospective onlyfans subscriber?

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(the reason i am expanding is because the context of this coming up is very different from the way it normally does)
So my recent expirience over the past 2-3 years is that a deprressingly overwhelming majority of women I encounter on dating apps or groups and such are only interested in selling me their OF or SnapPremium and when I reject the advance (normally just saying something along the lines of not spending money on services like that) I dont hear from them again.

I have been talking to a girl I met on a local FB group after she hearted a few of my pics and we talked in the comments a bit. idc if its not a thing we say anymore but she is wildly out of my league. I am generally happy with how I look, I think I am attractive and take care of my appearence and style well but she is in the realm of intimidatingly beautiful.

We have been talking about a week and a half and have a lot in common. Mellow things, an occasional cute flirt but nothing really past that. Yesterday she sent me an unprompted risque video (nothing like explicit but definately sexy/sexual) I responoded in kind and we flirted and talked about that stuff a bit. She sent me her OF link for "i was interested"

heres where I am not knowing what to feel/believe and ergo how to ask this.

I was able to not engage with the OF offer cause she sent another message at the same time that I was able to respond to and keep the conversation on. We spoke for a couple more messages and then she prolly went to sleep.

Normally i reject the offer for paid content from people as it comes as a standalone thing and often right away or like 10 messages in. But not engaging in it this time left it in the air and I am unsure if she is just "not being a pushy salesman" for lack of better way to say that; or if it was just an innocent offer to someone she knows is interested in her, but not the foundation for her engagine with me.

So... Do I... (i want to cause, if i am just a potential customer and nothing more I am exhausted of my feelings being hurt from that) Do I ask? and if so how do i ask? I really am nervous about offending her if she actually is interested in me. We have a lot in common and even some very niche super similarities.

TLDR: been talking to girl who seems to like me but she sent her OF and idk if she actually likes me or if its like the whole "no bro the waitress isnt into you" type beat. how do i ask which is it and do i?

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