Apologies in advance for the textwall. Will try to keep it as short as possible, but I also need to give details to explain the context as much as possible.

About me: I have been 10 years in a sexless, lacking intimacy marriage. I took me years to give into escorts, but I couldn’t cope anymore. I did intensive research for years, and started seeing providers a month ago.

What I look for: the GFE. I have sexual needs, but I need the intimacy component to really enjoy the sex. DFK, DATY and cuddling/conversation are the core to me in that respect. I don’t care much about BBBJ and BBFS is a hard no for me anyway.

As a client: I did a lot of research here for months and tried to tick all the boxes. Hygiene I take very seriously (showered no more than 15 mins before booking; clean shaved, teeth brushed and mouthwash -only drink water before meeting); I pay as soon as I enter (normally tip 20% of her fare); I value respect and consent always; never overstay (I set alarms on my phone); always book an hour minimum; communiction is always detailed on my expectations and I ensure not to waste time on the phone; always try to book in advance, and I generally shy yet seeking conversation and touch.

So far, some experiences have been better, but not fully satisfactory. In detail:

Provider A (repeat): Is great during sex, I enjoy conversation with her but no DATY or DFK is offered (she has them listed in her ad but English is not her language and says was unware about meanings). After sex, I don’t feel rushed, but I know my touch makes her uncomfortable. Still, I love her company and this is the only provider I booked for sexless sessions.

Provider B: Sex was great but no DFK. Limited cuddling but she was enthusiastic. I saw her while on holiday so cannot see her again.

Provider C: was 35 minutes late (incall; just waited on the street), 15 years older than advertised, different body type and the smell was so offputting (unwashed butt) that I almost gagged. Pretended to cum round 2 and left 20 minutes early.

Provider D (only repeat apart from A): is a great experience overall. She really makes me feel desired, and is happy for me to enjoy DATY for 35-40 minutes. Loves cuddling and we have build a good trust. Downsides are that she takes calls for other bookings during our appointments, no DFK and last visit (4th time) she asked me to please come back at the end of the day for a discounted 3 hour session as rent was due but she was short of money. She cried and I gathered the money and came back after original appojntment (where she asked me to leave 5 mins earlier to accomodate another client). Also while on holiday so won’t see her again till summer.

Provider E: minutes ago. Paid listed fare on entry. She told me it was 20% more as ad is wrongly priced. No DFK or cuddling, and DATY at extra (despite ad saying included). Paid her fee but did not take DATY. After round 1 she left the room and came back smoking a cigarette to the room (don’t mind but poor ettiquette?), asked me for an extra half hour (could not overstay) and rushed me for round 2. I was by then unable to get it up and left half through the appointment.

I am losing hope to find the right provider, feel unsatisfied and like I am wasting money. Any feedback appreciated. Thanks.