So before I get into any context, I only just learned of this sexual orientation a few days ago. I had been identifying as asexual, because I had a libido once, but prescribed drugs and severe depression/anxiety have all but robbed me of my interest in my partner’s penis. Cupiosexual is a branch down from asexual, defined as “you want to have sex but you have no sexual attraction or sexual desire”.

Normal context: we’re in our 30s, been together for four years, and two of those years have been almost entirely sexless. When we first got together he would tell me that I couldn’t grip his penis tightly enough to hurt him, a point which he proved repeatedly, so there are definitely some sensitivity issues on his part.

I would be far more amicable to getting him off with a masturbatory device than having to cramp my hand for half an hour. Any suggestions? We are rather vanilla, though I could probably convince him to use something that vibrated… however, nothing in his butt. Strictly penile masturbation.

Thank you so much in advance for any advice you can give! I’ve already learned from this sub not to buy from Adam and Eve (basically the only site I’ve been looking at lately.)