I own a bunch of inexpensive realistic dildos but they're all too firm and kind of hurt when you're pounding away, even the dual density one from Doc Johnson.

After experiencing some fantasy-style dildos in softer silicone hardness (00-50 and A-00, respectively) I realised my body likes my dildos to be softer and more flexible. But try as I might I can't seem to find any softer realistic dildos (by which I mean: a pale flesh skin tone and shaped roughly like a human dong, I don't need it to be detailed or anything) unless I spend upwards of £100.

There seem to be plenty of fantasy softer dildos around £50 or so, and even some realistically shaped ones but all in non-realistic colours (like blue or purple).

And most realistic dildos don't even list their shore hardness on their product pages. :(

Am I chasing an impossible dream here or does anyone know where I can find one?

(If it helps, I'm UK-based so shipping from the US can make an otherwise affordable dildo unaffordable.)