I’ve been trying to find a good first toy for myself since I’ve been exploring things, but some of my personal limiting factors have made it more difficult to do alone.

I’m Genderfluid (assigned female at birth) and experience genital/sexual dysphoria that’s made non-penetrative stimulation pretty much the only thing that works for me solo, so I know that narrows down the type of toy pretty well. Even if that wasn’t a factor, though, I really wouldn’t want anything realistic looking. I’d prefer something more discrete size-wise.

Vibration has been pretty effective so far, but I’m autistic and hyposensitive to pressure so I need something pretty intense in vibration and/or pressure that can be applied. I plan on using it through clothing, so texture is appreciated but not necessary.

Finally, I need to be able to order it online. This is currently the most information I can come up with since the price range isn’t really an issue (I’m happy to save up for it) but I’m happy to answer any questions and edit this post with more details as needed.