Now, I’ve seen options in here about Wands VS Clit suckers, but most of those have been in the context of masturbating. This is a little different.

So my wife’s wand has finally had its last hot night and bit the dust. She has a smaller (5 inch) one, but it’s a cheap one that we got for almost free, and she’s been using it for a few months. I’ve been wanting to replace it for her, but I’ve been looking at the clit suckers too. She loves it when I go down on her, so there’s a part of me that thinks she might like one of those instead of another vibrating wand.

Here’s the situation: So, she absolutely needs constant clit stimulation to orgasm. She also prefers to be penetrated too during sex, but we always use the wand on her clit the whole time. Due to a combination of physical limitations on both of our parts (weight, injuries, age), we are limited to pretty much the standard missionary position, or me standing and holding her legs up at the edge of the bed. She has to hold the wand there in place the whole time. However the (dead) one was much longer (about a 14” long) and was much easier to hold, however it had a LOT of torque - almost too much for both of us except on the lowest settings.

My concern is that a sucker might not be able to maintain contact and/or pressure during sex. Or that it’s sensations would be too delicate to be felt with all of the other movement going on. Has anyone had any problems using it while being penetrated while on your back?

Note: I’m asking for opinions on use during sex only, not for masturbating.

Thanks!