I (m36) am married to (f33). We have a kid and want more. We are both introvert and have insecurities regarding our bodies and sexuality. For years she now and then dropped a comment that she would like to have sex with a girl but in last time it got much more frequent.

I don’t know how to deal with these comments. Today I answered that if she is serious we can look for a girl to join us and she was like “yeah sure, we an obese couple are looking for you sexy thin girl to join us in bed” (In a sarcastic voice). I could do good with 30kg less but she isn’t obese at all. I almost can see her abs.

However, her answer wasn’t “nah, just kidding”. I don’t really know if she really wants this. I don’t know how to talk with her about this and if to talk at all. Our sexual life had his ups and downs the last years.