I don't like etiquette, i m not cis but i don't want to be call "non cis personn". i don't understand why cis men are usually not accepted in sexpositiv parties i don't want to choose because i don't like gender, for me we are all the same. i m french and i hate gender nouns we have. So when i see only 2 category : "cis man" and "other than cis man" i choose "cis man", gender "other" , sexuality "other".

i usually didn't had problems for my previous parties but for today i was rejected with the reason: your gender and sexuality don't match with the category you selected. Imo, i think is discrimination and force people to choose a side even if they don't want. i don't have problems to say " i m not cis" but only when i know i m with cis people. i don't want to be see as a cis or non cis personn. i m not feeling well to discriminate a group of people and i don't want to join group if they are only "non cis people". i think is toxic and 2nd i m afraid they ll try to "educate" me for something i m not agreeing. (excluding a group of people) What's your opinion about it? i don't know if it's very clear, i have ADHD.

what do you think?