A couple years ago I left a 20-year passionless marriage. My ex never desired me. It was difficult so I focused on raising my kids.

I found a wonderful girlfriend and we have dated since December. This coming weekend we have rented a romantic cabin together.

Despite being 50ish, I am nervous. I don’t have much experience with sex. I am fit for my age, however, and can go 2-3 times over the course of an evening.

But I have questions.

I want to be an attentive lover. To me that means I don’t want to cum right away so I can make sure she feels loved and desired.

We’ve only had sex a few times but never a whole weekend together. And she is most responsive to PiV.

My issue? She feels sooo good. But I want it to last. So when I get close do I just pull out and wait until I calm down? Does that feel disappointing and frustrating when a guy does that?

Should I go down on her while I calm down? Finger her? Caress her?

Is changing positions a good way to give me the time to collect myself?

I want to make sure I can give her as much pleasure as possible (I’ll be just fine 😆).

I hope this makes sense. I like this sub because everyone is understanding and helpful. Thank you for the advice.