My husband have been together since our teens and are now 38 and 40. I've always been open to ideas in bed but pretty vanilla in my own ideas and actions. Over time I have warmed up to try lots of things but they are all from my husband's ideas. In the last 10 since we had our kids, I've really dropped the ball and gotten complacent without giving him the emotional and physical affection he deserves.

After being together over 20 years I am looking for ideas to seduce him and blow his mind in bed. We've tried toys, butt plugs (on me, he's not a fan for himself), bondage, hot wax, stingers clubs, safe room play with some swapping with other couples and threesomes.

What I'm looking for is something I can do for him that will liven things up and show him I'm still passionate for him.