Hello lovely people,

I am curious if some of you can relate to my experience with scent and sex.

I am very sensitive to light. The LED age has not been kind to me. I'm also quite sensitive to sound and can shutdown fairly quickly in a noisy environment -- except with music. Music must be loud or I miss the nuance and become uncomfortable. Go figure.

However, I tend to be sensitive to smells in a very different way. I love the smell of a partner's body during sex. Everything seems so fecund and rich and intimate and erotic. It makes me wild.

When I plan to meet someone for sex I typically request my partner not shower or use deodorant or perfumes. I relate to the (probably apocryphal) message from Napoleon to Josephine: "home in three days. Don't wash."

I love to wake my partners with oral sex so I can smell them on my beard all day. It makes me absolutely feral to find them in the evening. I love the smell of sweat but like to earn it. I think body odour is hot. And yes, earthy booty smell makes me absolutely melt.

Any time I've engaged with primal play I've been driven by scent.

However, it's more than erotic. These scents also help me relax and focus.

I move in kinky circles so sometimes NT partners will understand and humour me. But my best experience was with a ND partner who would flirt by texting, "I'm stinky." Haha.

Can anyone relate? I'm quite certain this is positive sensory stimulation related to autism.

I also appreciate other people can be overwhelmed by scents, and I would like to understand that experience better too, especially because I find I increasingly prefer ND relationships. If I haven't totally disgusted you and you read this far, I'm interested in your experience too.