I'm a M 42, and certainly used to be a switch. I'm quite an "alpha" guy in the day time, doing my job, making decisions, being good. But in the evening, at home, All that fades away as I want to hand over my power, willingly.

The thing is theres so much focus on "harsh" dommes that it misses the love I have for that softer more gentle handing over of power. I don't orgasm because I'm forcibly locked away, but because she hasn't given permission yet - I have both the will power and the mental strength to obey her.

And we both know I could at any point just decide to overpower her, but thats the thrill for both, that willing submission, the calming of the beast. And of course, knowing that she can wind me up to make me into the animal she needs when she wants to.

Right now my fantasy is for the loving control, being worked up, and having to ask permission, and being denied it - knowing that when I am given a release it will be explosive.