I (40M) am not really sure how to do or say this but here goes: I am responsible for putting the final nail in our nearly 15 year marriage coffin. Thanks to my sexting strangers addiction. My wife and I are best friends and always will be but I keep cheating virtually and trust is gone on her side. Tonight, after someone took a screenshot of my face on chat roulette during my latest bullshit (mere hours after therapy no less) whoever was on the other end was able to find my identity and texted and called me and my wife with evidence, trying to extort us both for money. We ignored this person but clearly I can't get my shit together when it comes to ridding myself of the thrill of sexting. To my own demise.

The already tenuous ground of our marriage, damaged by previous sexting betrayals, gave way. We talked honestly tonight about all options including divorce and an alternate option to stay together in the house we've built recently (and absolutely love) but live separate sex lives. And one day likely separate. It could be months or years but it's basically inevitable now.

Has anyone else been in this position? How did you handle it? I could use a word of advice as I'm feeling pretty lost and shitty right now. Damn, do I feel hollow.