Hi everyone, I’m quite new here, so I hope everyone is having a good day.

For some context, I’m a 25 year old male living with his parents. I work a full time job and am in a happy 4 year relationship with the best girlfriend anyone could ask for.

Myself and my partner have always had problems when it comes to matching our libido. I want sex more often than she does and she will want sex sometimes and maybe tease me a little, but often it’s at a bad place or time for her to engage further, which might be because we’re in public, at one of our parents’ places, or she’s not in the mood. We do sometimes have sexual encounters together which I cherish with her and I make her feel as good as she does with me. Often I have to finish myself alone because she doesn’t stimulate me enough. We’ve never successfully had penetrative because it’s physically painful for her but we have made progress and are getting better in that field.

But always desire more. Whenever I finish myself, I look at porn to do so, or I sext other people behind her back, or seek out escorts to gain that “relief” of sexual satisfaction that I don’t get with my partner. But I don’t want that. This happens far too often and it’s beginning to destroy mine and my partner’s relationship and I want to stop this “seeking” of sexual satisfaction and be happy with my partner.

I don’t know if I’m addicted to sex or porn or both, but I do know that a combination of the two is putting me at risk of losing everything that we’ve built together over the last 4 years.

For those who have been in similar situations, I seek your advice. How did you combat this and beat sex/porn addiction to be happy and satisfied in your own relationship?