So, I need to set firm boundaries regarding my romantic relationships with my family.

A lil back story, every guy I have been with they have nitpicked apart… they went as far as threatening to take my 2 month old if I didn’t leave his father. This was in 2010, I we were living with my dad. I was working third shift and my sister was over sleeping during the day(she worked third as well) because her neighbors were too loud. My bf, baby’s dad, had quit his job, I can’t remember the exact reasoning why at this time, so he took care of him while I slept. So the story goes, my sister was being kept up by my baby crying(I always woke up no problem when he cried), so instead of waking me up when supposedly dad wasn’t doing anything she decided a logical option was to call our mom who lived almost an hour away to complain. Instead of waking me up so I could first hand see him being neglectful(her story) and I could take care of my son. After this I decided to cut and run because I wasn’t going to be put into a position to have my son taken away from me for no good reason. He had his two months shots the day before and we found out the next day he had an ear infection… why he was crying.

So after some years I reached back out when I needed help. Ever since then they have been highly critical of the men I date… to the point they won’t even talk with them to actually get to know them at ALL. They make assumptions based on their past. Which then they get into my head and gaslight me into buying the shit and I end up ruining my relationship.

I would like to keep them in my life, but I need to set the boundary to mind their own business and keep their comments to themselves.

A good example is Saturdy I asked my bf to leave because my family doesn’t like him and I keep hearing about why he’s no good, he has addiction in his past and he has been homeless(he has about a total of $8000 though, so it’s by choice to live without bills so he can save for land). My bf and I chatted and I told him my family does this with anyone I date. So he isn’t moving out, but I have to set a firm boundary with my family to mind their own business. So I was expecting a call or text yesterday because they seemed so concerned, asking if I felt safe and pretty much throwing him out onto the street… I’m like he never threatened me or my kids, never made me feel in danger at all… so I was expecting some type of check in to at least make sure he hadn’t snapped or something, but nope(which shows me they don’t really care about me, so long as they get to control me).