So, I’m a 33year old mother of three. Going to school and working full time, I own my own home and am completely independent.

I met my 41 year old bf 3 months ago. He was working and choosing to live homeless in his van 3 hours away in another state. I can respect the sacrifices he chooses to make to save up to buy a house in the country with cash. Well he decided to quite his sales job to try to get his CDL, so he had to wait 30 days to get the THC out of his system(it’s been pretty much 2 months since he smoked last)… now his van pretty much broke down in front of my house and now he’s been living with me for the past 3 weeks… he has been diagnosed with a hernia and just realized the CDL classes he signed up for in Texas he wouldn’t have transportation to and from… he would be staying with his narcissistic and mentally abusive mother… so now he is stuck waiting for the next CDL class which they have no date for and living in my own without income…

I know he is not in the best place mentally, he’s stressed and depressed, but I have let men live off me before I just can’t do it again😓. So how do I say from a place of love and support that the choices of quitting his job before he had CDL school lined up and not waiting to quite his sales job was a horrible and impulsive idea… I need to set boundaries and not let him roll over on me again… please help me find the right words to use😥 guy

Edit: so he says he has applied for a few fast food jobs. He wants to go Amish and I’m about to drop him off in Amish country a few hours away… that’s near his other gf(we are polyamorous). She can deal with the aftermath of that I guess🤷‍♀️.

I am going to give him notice to vacate if he doesn’t leave willingly tonight… fingers crossed he agrees without a fight😓