I’m kinky and I’m in a few subs where I’m seeing too many people introducing their spouses or soon to be spouses to their kinks or the general lifestyle and I see shit like, “how do I get my vanilla partner into this? I have known I’ve been into it for years, but…”

I’m just here like don’t even finish that sentence. Why do people decide to only bring shit up many kids and years later? This goes for anything, politics, the talk of starting a family and even pets. I don’t like dogs and I’ll let you know right off the bat That I won’t compromise on having a pet dog because you’re only options will be to either take care of it yourself or leave. also, please understand people that you will not change your partner‘s mind.

I’m not even planning on getting married because that’s not for me, but if marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment, why not take your time and you know possibly say all of the important shit at the beginning? i’m open to poly relationships and I would never dream of disclosing that after 10 or 20 years of marriage just because I’ve had enough of my suffering. How do people do this? and I know that some people’s partners can be cruel when something so big comes out but the sentiment of why didn’t you say something beforehand still stands? I ask myself this any time I see a post like that.