pretty much title. i’m a 34F and a mother of a teenage daughter. i have been single for … roughly 12 years. i have had hookups and flings here and there, but nothing serious. i suppose i’d be unconventionally pretty - i’m mixed race, long dark hair, brown eyed, average height and a bit curvier than average. i’m wickedly intelligent and well-spoken, i work, i own my house and car and i’m not a lost cause. my friends say i’m easy-going, funny, and just pleasant to be around. until recently, i’ve been celibate for a couple of years just to reset my feelings about sex. most of my encounters have been one-offs because no man i’ve been attracted to has seemed to want to actually be with me. i feel at this point, men want me for sex and little else. which is unfortunate, since i’m a huge romantic and i could give so much more. it makes me very sad, to be honest. all of my friends have relationships of varying types, SOs, even marriage and yet, i’m pretty lonely. this past week, i showed interest in an acquaintance at a bar we both frequent, we hung out for several hours and then we did have sex, the next morning he informed me that it was a “last night” thing and that we can be friends. before conclusions, i am not seeking boyfriends in bed — but i also think the idea of not sleeping with someone until you’re committed to them is unfair. dozens of people i know have had healthy relationships AND put out on the first date so. what is it? do i give off slut vibes (even though i didn’t engage for years)? too ugly? too independent? just cursed? let’s discuss.