I mean that in an intangible way— what BS dynamic or expectation have you decided you no longer have time for in your life or relationship?

Stbx (42m) and I (36f) are separated but still living together for now, for logistical reasons, so we still interact daily. For the most part we get along, but of course we have our moments. Stbx is prone to emotional dumping at inopportune times; this morning he had a list of complaints for me while watching cartoons with the kids. I told him this was poor timing, and to think about what he’s hoping to get out of the interaction; is he hoping for an apology or some other action from me? In the past I would’ve tempered my response, coddled him so that we’d have a nice morning, but I’m over it. Let him be huffy over petty things, it’s his choice.