Background: About two months ago, husband (42m) and I (36f) agreed to end the romantic relationship between us, but to keep living as a family for another year as a trial to see if we could do it long term, or if we need to split up/divorce. Married 13 years, together 16, and we almost-but-didn’t divorce about 6 years ago. We’re telling close friends but not the kids since generally nothing else has changed, we’ve had separate bedrooms for years already. We get along and still hang out, talk, share meals and do things as a family, but for me the romantic connection is done.

Sooo last week I set up a bumble account (with husband’s awareness/blessing). Husband did the same, and we giggled over it together for a few days but eventually he decided it wasn’t for him, “if” he ever felt like it he’d meet women the old fashioned way. Meanwhile, I’ve connected with 3 people and made plans to meet up with them— one I’ve met already and had a first kiss. I’ve told husband about it all along and so far it’s been strangely normal and fun! He says just seeing me this happy makes it worth it.

It’s still so new for me but overall it’s been a fun experience so far! I’d be interested in hearing others’ post-split dating stories, especially if it was while still sharing space with your ex/estranged spouse. Preferably if they’re positive experiences! 😬 But also any good info/warnings for a newbie like me.