My wife asked for a separation 6 days ago now and the biggest clearest thing was that she needed space from me to work on herself. To simplify, it broke me, I started seeing a therapist and we're already pretty sure I have an anxiety disorder, which basically explains most of the known issues my wife has with me. Over-sharing, constant need for affection, generally just a taxing person on her.

So obviously when those are the problems the first reaction is to give her the space she needs, while starting to work on myself. Unfortunately, I left rather quickly and we set up nothing for the future besides what I'd keep paying and what we'd say to our daughter (I've known our daughter since she was 6 months never adopted)

So, aided by my anxiety I'm sure, I don't know when she will reach out, and have no rules set for the separation. She has said she doesn't PLAN on it ending in divorce but she is not sure if she loves me anymore.

My question after all of this is, have I created a situation where I have to wait for her to reach out to talk about rules? All I really want is that we don't date during separation and that we start couples therapy at some point.

Tldr: wife wanted separation, left quickly, unsaid no contact, but want to define rules for separation. Do I want til she reaches out?