Hi All,

Today is day one of separation after 18 years and three kids. I have known for a long time that I didn't want to be there anymore but was never strong enough to actually make the final call. She had been very controlling that resulted in me feeling more like another child than a partner.

I went to google something earlier in the day and thought "am I allowed to do this?" I have been so conditioned to need to ask permission or feel like I have to hide things that would cause disapproval from her. She is asking for another chance but I feel free. The kids took the news reasonably well and it wouldnt have come as a surprise for them but obviously early days for everyone.

I look forward to a full life ahead and will no doubt benefit from your experiences.