A quick overview- Wife and I decided to trial separate in early January. We first took turns every other week spending nights elsewhere. Even though I work from home, it has been going well. When the virus hit, we both hunkered down in the same house about a 1-1/2 months with our daughter. We have since decided to work toward an eventual divorce in what feels like the most civil of all possible ways. Now taking turns sleeping in the spare bed. Things continue to go well and I am grateful. I think we have both moved past the resentment phase long ago. We want each other to be happy. We get along well like friends/roommates who also happen to have a child together. We share in all the usual chores, etc. I no longer have resentful feelings of not being appreciated. For me, there is some inner peace in this.

Early on we agreed to check in with each other periodically regarding where each of us are regarding what I now refer to as " The Separation". Even though, with the lock-down, it all feels like we are in stasis. Many variables are at play- how long the lock down will be; how soon the economy will spring back enough for my business to build up again(2020 started off well for Jan-Feb, but took a dive in March) enough that I can move out, etc. Realistically it may be at least 6 more months. I am a bit numb looking at the likelihood of that. As of this post, I'm quoting 3 projects.

Lately I've been in my sweat-equity mode regarding our house. In between paying projects, I've been doing yard work, getting garden beds ready for planting, etc. Even if its a means of keeping me busy and getting some time outside and the satisfaction of tasks well done and completed. Yesterday in our monthly talk about The Separation, I said that I am happy to do these projects around the house, but I warned that at some point in a few months, I won't. She has alluded to acknowledging there is a yet to determine value in my equity in the house. There are a couple other variables at play but I won't get into them here.

Meanwhile, ironically, I am free to date! But the locked down dating landscape is the current norm.

Today I am now 2 years away from 60. I've started over before and I'm not afraid to again.