Two weeks ago my wife got into an argument about which ultimately led to me asking for a separation.

My wife and I have been married for little over a year. We have had a dead bedroom for over 2 years and this led to me feeling less than. I coped with these feelings by working out which made her mad due to me spending a lot of time at the gym. I suffer from depression and I would tend to dissociate from this depression. My wife would yell at me over my failure to do simple tasks. At the end this yelling happened nearly daily. I always felt like I was walking on egg shells and I soon found out how bad the stress was when I started losing my hair.

After I asked for a separation I don’t believe she thought I was serious. When she did realize I was she began love bombing me and changed into a new woman entirely. She constantly reminds that this is what I could have if I choose to stay.

For clarification I asked for space and she keeps coming over to our shared apartment to visit our dog. She’s living at her mom’s house right now.

I currently feel so conflicted because of not wanting to hurt my wife, but I’m also finding it hard to forgive her for the years that led up to me snapping. Should I feel guilty? Should I just move on? I’m really struggling with what the right thing to do is.