As the title says, I'm going to ask my husband for a separation. The final straw was this past weekend. He was supposed to stay home with our kid so I could go out to brunch. He didn't get up in time (we've already agreed I will no longer wake him up - another story). I wasn't mad or upset, just felt resolved. I've been telling him for over 2 months that I'm unhappy enough to think about separating. We started going to couples therapy last month (first available appt). He's started picking up around the house more, but is still letting me take the brunt of the household chores and parenting. When it's not convenient for him, he expects me to take over, every time. I'm tired of fighting about it. So, now, those instances are just my fuel to do what I need to for me 🤷‍♀️

Anyway, here's my question. He asked to reschedule or next therapy appt which was scheduled for later this week. I had planned to tell him my decision then. Fingers crossed, we will go to therapy in about two weeks instead, if he can get off work in time. What do I do in the meantime? He can tell my attitudes changed. I'm pleasant for our kid's sake, but that's about it. He's tried to ramp up the physical affection I've been asking about fir years. It doesn't sway me at this point, but idk how to keep things calm until therapy. I want an objective person in the room when I break the news. I don't want to deal with hid dramatics, and I don't want our kiddo to be present. Anyone have experience with this? If so, what did you do?