Me m36 her 37 been separated since Christmas. We’ve been on remotely good terms an don’t hate each other at all. But over the past few years (2)things have just gotten stale between us. I had a rough to years with us all moving to a new state (for her career) while I left the best job I’ve ever had of almost 7 years. I struggled with the move because my field isn’t as prominent in the upper north east and had to take a drastic pay cut. On top of all that Covid hit, I was laid off, injured my back ( moving appliances like refrigerators and washers and dryer‘s) and got bell’s palsy all within 3 to 4 months 😮‍💨.
I was at my lowest an she seemed to lose attraction and faith in me ever getting back into the swing of things.

Once I did heal up, I reached out to my old employer an was offered my job back with a decent raise. I jumped on the opportunity and moved back to our home state ahead of the family for a few months saved thousands to fund the move back. She was an is still able to keep her current career but now gets to work from home.

Ever since we have been back home, it’s like I’ve lost my wife and she was replaced with a roommate who coparents with me. It’s been a full year since we’ve been intimate in almost anyway. All while I’ve gotten into the best shape of my life. She says she’s asexual now and sex just doesn’t interest her.

My question is should I hold out for the sake of things “might get better” after the separation or should I just start trying to move on an just take the L?

I’ve been with her my entire adult life and seeing the current state of dating and hook up culture and the rise of third wave feminism it doesn’t look much more promising on the other side.

I don’t really have a support group as all my friends and close family my age are all happily married with multiple kids. Im just at a lose.

Sorry for the rant.