Hi friends - I wouldn’t say we are “In this community” as my wife is still hesitant. I shared my fantasies a few years ago and we’ve since progressed into some fun play. - I bought her some pineapple/flamingo underwear she suggested she wear to a couples quiz night. - she asks me for a “massage” every now and then where I roleplay being a different guy using realistic dildos. - written multiple chapters of erotic threesome fiction starring her and I - before roleplaying fucking her as “another guy”. Suction dildo pushed out of jeans :)

Things seems to vary between her being super turned on. Then shy and unsure. She makes noises I’ve never heard with these dildos. Says things like “it was soooooo goood” “felt amazing”. But then in other attempts she’ll say she just wants me etc. which I understand. It can’t be a threesome every time.

My question is - how do I balance this? I feel like a frog in a sock sometimes. And I think she’s currently struggling with her self esteem. What can I do to boost this? Reassure her? Not overwhelm her?