So we are a couple 42M/42F. Want to go but have had bad experiences with another club. Mainly a guy shoving his member in me without asking first while I was bent over watching something

We aren't the traditional full swap couple as I am a cuckquean. My enjoyment is primarily watching my husband with another woman. I do play with women but not men. While I love watching I would love sending him solo to play and returning to me afternoon to play with me and tell me about the time he had with the other woman

We aren't the best looking....my husband has been compared to an ogre or troll and everyone says I got all the looks in the relationship. We are on the chubby/ chunky side, I won't lie. Husband carries the weight better than me.

I am not sure what else to describe us other than he is a grower and gets to 9" and I'm a 38E and wear XL/sometimes XXL clothing.

Would we feel safe there?

Would there be anyone who would fit our preferences?

Are the guys pushy and rude?

Would i be able to actually watch or send him solo? It seems that the hard part is his looks but get him in bed and he will make women orgasm multiple times.

Should we bring condoms? Do most couples require them? Are they available there for a small fee or free?

We get tested every 6 months even though we haven't played with anyone in 10 years....minus that incident I mentioned above 3 years ago but we both got tested after that and have been clean thankfully. Of course we will get tested before we go. Is there any play without condoms?

Do we need to get a room? Does it help?

I'm nervous about going, would it be ok to send hubby solo to check it out?

Thanks for responding! Sorry, trying to get back into the lifestyle and just nervous about everything again