Trying to seperate a female from couple is called wife poaching. It’s one of the fastest ways to piss off most experienced LS couples.

I would take it as a huge disrespect to my hubs (and me) for someone to come out and ask for that.

Welcome to the lifestyle! It sounds like you’re easing in with a healthy approach, focusing on each other first, which is a great way to start!

To answer your question, finding a single woman (or ‘unicorn’) can be a bit like searching for a rare gem—possible, but it might take some patience. Single women do attend, but it’s good to keep in mind that many are looking for their own connections too, not just to jump in with couples. When you meet someone who clicks with both of you, it can be magical, but it’s important to respect their boundaries and interests as well.

As for your concern about only being interested in one part of a couple—there’s nothing inherently rude about that. Everyone has their preferences, and it’s all about being upfront and kind. If you meet a couple and aren’t feeling a full swap, just politely let them know you’re focused on exploring with a single female for now. Most people in the community will appreciate the honesty—it’s a no-pressure environment where clear communication is key.

The best advice we can offer is to stay relaxed, go with the flow, and enjoy each other’s company first and foremost. If something extra happens, great! If not, you’ll still have fun together and learn a lot along the way. And who knows—you might even find that perfect connection when you least expect it.

Good luck and have fun!