I moved to Scottsdale just under a year ago. In most ways, I love it. I love the scenery, the ease of living, how clean/organized most things are, and the hiking and how much there is to do in general. But my biggest gripe is dating here seems incredibly hard.

I know people say this about every city but that hasn't been my experience. I''ve lived in Vancouver, Montreal, Dublin, and Chicago and had a pretty good dating life in all them. Met lots of great people, and would never have an issue lining up a date when desired.

In Scottsdale, it's been mostly horrible. Dating apps have been a dead end for me, while in most of the above cities I've been quite successful (I probably get ~1/5th the matches of any other city I've lived in). I've tried meeting people in person too, from going out in Old Town to chatting up people on hikes, and it's also been mostly a dead end. People do not seem receptive to conversation and almost seem shocked a stranger would chat with them. Even in settings (ie nightlife) where it's a fairly normal thing. When I have met people, on the majority of dates I have been on, my dates seem to put zero effort in and are borderline disrespectful - which again, is not my experience living elsewhere.

I know it's easy to assume I'm the problem, but I'm a social person, in good shape, above average height, well educated (specialized master's) with a high paying job, live in a very nice place, blah blah. I thought maybe it's just a function of getting older, but went on a recent week-long trip to San Diego and had no trouble meeting people there.

Does anyone else have this experience? Any advice? Where do 29 year old guys meet people here?