As a guy if you go to Les Girls , Pacers, Cheetahs, or any other strip club topless bar, gentleman's club These can be found downtown area, midway lots of the 805 Claremont mesa Blvd You can pay the dancers and give them a hug but no touching and the weird 6 foot rule.. Hence you get lap dance the fantasy That's number 1. Number 2. Private rooms and rule applies more intimate but no touching. But then get paid in cash. Guess dancers work on sales commission only. Number 3. Jolars used to have private dancers but you got a telephone a window and tissues. Still no touching. Girls were fun nice even get to talk get a hug but no touchy. Pick any other arcade sane rule Number 4. People brand new always ask about arcades. One person per room you put tokens or money into machine to watch porn on screen. You can touch yourself some guys and others like to buddy up. I like the privacy I play by the rules the glory holes are gone people just need to stop asking. Number 5: this has to do with touching at theaters not strip clubs. Expect to be sat next to. Expect another person to offer a helping hand. For all straight guys or ladies get over it. You are watching porn. Its taboo for a reason. If you dont want to watch voyeuristic or show off exhibitionist, or play don't show up. This is my rule don't bring alcohol drugs or even money into theater to exchange. You are part of the problem. Do that shit at home.