Yesterday night I (29F) attempted sex with my guy best friend (28). I’m a gay woman and he was a virgin, which meant we didn’t have the same confidence as the next horny couple.

My anxiety that I may have have gotten pregnant is infringing into my life and making it hard for me to focus. I need this sub to help me calm down and make sure I didn’t do anything risky.

Here’s what happened:

• We started off with foreplay, kept our clothes on for most of this
• After a few minutes of this, I was still as dry as the Sahara desert so he performed oral sex in four different positions to help get me off (he kept his pants on and I didn’t give him head)
• We continued making out and I tried taking off his briefs but he said he didn’t want me to see his precum mess
• He tried fingering me, but I was incredibly tight (and wasn’t turned on) so we used lube and he got two fingers in but it felt painful and was not a pleasant experience
• He took off his briefs and his precum was spilling out, I automatically adjusted to the side of the bed to avoid direct contact with my legs (can someone confirm if this was risky???)
• We took a break and he decided to give me even more oral sex

I think I was relatively safe up to this point, until what happens next:

• After oral, we attempted PIV sex but he was flaccid af but he managed to pull a condom over his dick
• He applied lube to his condom over his dick, and I applied lube to my vulva (I’m worried if he might have gotten precum on his fingers which could have mixed with the lube and gotten inside me)
• We tried getting his dick in but it was soft and wouldn’t hold up, also I was extremely tight and wasn’t turned on
• After this, he tried getting a finger inside of me to gauge if I was tight and I was (again, should I be worried about precum on his fingers mixed with lube getting in contact with my vag??)
• He asked if I could grind against him while the condom was still on to make him erect (I tried but maintained minimal contact with his dick and grinded his stomach instead)
• We just stopped since I wasn’t into it, and he got me off after using my vibrator (he kept his condom on the whole time as this happened, but I’m worried about the precum on his fingers that could have gotten on my vibe)

Tl;dr we never had PIV sex. He never climaxed or ejaculated and kept his condom on, but I am worried about possible precum potentially being transferred by fingers and toys (although I didn’t notice him touching his dick and the condom was still on the whole time it happened).

In between applying the lube I asked him to wash his hands and I kept using the bathroom to watch my vajay.

I’m worried beyond belief and compare but I need someone to prove that what I did wasn’t actually risky. TIA!

Edit: I got my period, hooray!